|Posted by Oneness Ecuador on August 31, 2012 at 11:20 AM|
Question: Bhagavan, it was said that, one should love oneself. What is the need for us to love one self?
Answer : When we say "love yourself", see all of you have got what we might call a negative self also, there's a negative side to all of you, which Western psychologists would call the "shadow self", we call it the negative side..., as there's a slight difference in the term and the contents.
Now each of you, for example, have you not spoken lies? So many lies. Average lies per day is 60. Any human being. But would you like to accept that you are a liar? No. And sometimes planned lies. Because of survival. I am not blaming you.
I am just telling what is happening there. But then would you like to see that? You don't like to see it. Would you like that aspect? No, you don't like it. And you say, "oh, I love you so much. I wish all the blessings for you," inside you are full of hatred.
So inside there's a lot of fear but outward you'd be very brave; you would talk very bravely, but there is only fear inside. So, for all the so-called images that you are giving, there is a negative counterpart. There cannot be anything without the negative counterpart.
You have jealousy, anger, hatred, violence, lust. The most peaceful man in the world, the world will be plotting his death, and secretly hoping a lorry (truck) will go over him, that he will be destroyed, but saying: I wish you good luck.
This negative side, we have put it under the carpet. And it is hiding there. It is in the unconscious. There it is stinking. From there it is causing all the trouble for you. When we say: Love yourself, we are telling: (we mean:) Love that. Love that terrible thing. You are hating it. You are hating it, you are afraid of it, you dislike it, you pretend it is not there. But it is all there. This side is yours. No human being can be on this planet without this negative side--it is just not possible.
So, who are the great people, the Mahatma Gandhis, the Ramanas, the Buddhas. What is their basic journey? They know this side is there and they accept it and they love it. Whereas you, you don't see it, you don't accept it, you don't love it. You are running away from it all the time, or pretending it is not there.
So, on the journey of spirituality, the first and most important journey, you dig up all these things. Remove the carpet, bring it out! It is so, that's all. You are helpless, powerless people. Nobody has got any power or anything. We only imagine we have got it. It is there. It is dominating you, it is crushing you. So, that is what is happening.
So, you must dig up and come to terms with it. We can't do anything about it, because the contamination is there, the air is contaminated, consciousness is contaminated. It is there. You are only pretending as though it is not there. And the journey of spirituality is: you first say, yes, I am this. And confront it. And then you'll see a miracle will take place. That miracle, you find out what it is!
So, this is what we mean when we say, Love yourself. All this dirt, this muck, which nobody likes. When you don't like it, when you're afraid of it, how will you love it? But then it is possible to love it and say, yes, it is so. It is there--what can you do about it? You can't do anything about it. So, that is what we mean by saying, Love yourself.