SRI BHAGAVAN: "The teaching says- to have good relationship start with yourself, not with the other. See who you are, accept yourself as you are and love yourself as you are. When this happens very naturally the other person would see you as you are, would accept you as you are, would love you as you are.
So, in many many ways the teachings can help you but that is still only the first level.
Sometimes whatever you might do, the mind gets stuck. It will be playing the record again and again and again. For 20 years he will be repeating the same thing without any change. That also destroys relationship. You will say ten years ago you did this, twenty years ago you did this. The record goes on and on and on. To stop that... there deeksha comes into play and helps you...which can shift the mind into another dimension."