Q.) Bhagavan, what is the most important factor in keeping a good relationship with one's parents?
SRI BHAGAVAN: "The basic thing you must know is that whatever they, as parents, have done to you, whatever you do not approve of, was not that they did it wilfully; they were made to do those things because they were being controlled by several factors. You must realize that you are nothing but robots.
You are a robot and your parent is a robot. If you can see that, you wouldn't blame them at all. The way they behave with you would depend on what happened while they were in their mother's womb, their fundamental childhood decisions, past life vasanas, later day conditioning, etc.
If you realize this, first would come acceptance, then would come love and the relationship falls into order. Once the relationship falls into order, everything else falls into order.